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  • Grief as a Backpack

    Grief As a Backpack   By Angela Millerwww.abedformyheart.com     People seem to think the ache of missing our children would become more bearable over time. It doesn’t. In fact, some of my days now are more painful as the years go on, because I’m further and further since I last held my son safely in my arms. You’d think after all this time I’d be less caught off guard when I think of my son and I suddenly cannot...

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  • Grief and Hope

    Grief and Hope   By Rev John T. Schwiebert, MDivjohn@metanoiaumc.org     Many a person of faith has taken great comfort from these words of the Apostle Paul: We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters, about those who have died, so that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. (1 Thess. 4:13) Paul’s point is that when we trust God, and God’s creation, we can face loss knowing that we will survive...

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  • Gratitude

    Gratitude    By Pat Schwiebert, R.N.pat@tearsoup.com     I haven’t always lived a life of gratitude.  In fact, it never occurred to me until recently that it might be something worth pursuing. When I was a child I had some unfair deals handed to me so it as easy to feel sorry for myself.  I learned to invite as many people as possible to my pity party.  I suspect it was a learned behavior that came naturally to me.  Life...

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  • God Will Not Forget

    God Will Not Forget   By the Rev John T. Schwiebert, MDivjohn@metanoiaumc.org     The importance of remembering was something we first noticed when we worked with parents whose children had died.  But now we know that the longing to “never forget” is quite normal whether the deceased is one’s child, one’s middle aged friend, or even an elderly parent. When our loved one dies we invite relatives and friends to a memorial service.  There we savor a rich experience in...

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  • God the Father Reconsidered

    God the Father Reconsidered   By Rev John T. Schwiebert, ThMjohn@metanoiaumc.org     Since the theme of this newsletter issue is Fathers and Father’s Day, and since Theology is what I bring to these online conversations about grief, let me speak of God, the Father. In the earlier days of my pastoral ministry Mary Daly, a Catholic sister, wrote a book entitled, “Beyond God the Father.”  Her book, along with other strong feminist writings, helped us to see the misunderstandings...

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  • Friends

    Friends   By Pat Schwiebert, R.N.Pat@tearsoup.com    Long after you have come to terms with your loss, you may still be holding a grudge against others for what they have said to you or failed to say to you, during your grieving time. To understand why they acted as they did you need only remember what it was like before this tragedy in your life, and how you treated friends who had experienced the death of a loved one. What...

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  • Fear

    Fear   By Pat Schwiebert, R.N.pat@tearsoup.com   For some reason last month I made a note to write about fear this month. My old brain doesn’t remember now why I wrote that note to myself then, but I do know that over the years I have come to realize that fear is the greatest motivator for inaction or not finding our voice. Fear invites us to not accept change. (Aha, that must be why I wanted to write about FEAR!) ...

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  • Fifty (Almost) Years of Marriage

    Fifty (Almost) Years of Marriage   By Barbara Fox Tomorrow is our fiftieth wedding anniversary but my husband isn’t here to celebrate it with me. He died in May after fighting a really good fight against diabetes, congenital heart failure, a foot amputation and a myriad of other medical problems.  Damn it, he was supposed to make it to our anniversary, he intended to and he promised me that he would. We had so many problems the past nine years,...

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  • Father's Day

    Father's Day...   By Chuck DeKlyenwebmaster@griefwatch.com   This month families all over will be gathering to celebrate Fathers Day.  Families might meet for a BBQ, maybe go camping or even just pay a visit to spend time with their fathers.  For many of us lucky enough to still have our fathers in our life this can seem like just another commercial holiday.  But what about those whose father is no longer with them?  Father’s Day can be just another cruel...

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  • Family Gatherings in Times of Grief

    Family Gatherings in Times of Grief   By Pat Schwiebert, R.N.pat@tearsoup.com  There are times in our grief where we can do nothing but brace ourselves against the storm of pain and bitterness.  We have just enough energy to survive the day and no more.  And then finally, as the storm begins to be more predictable or we’ve released ourselves from the fear that it will consume us, we turn and face ourselves into the wind.  We feel energized rather than...

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  • Experiencing Life's Harsh Boundaries

    Experiencing Life's Harsh Boundaries   By Rev John T. Schwiebert, ThMjohn@tearsoup.com     “This Is Enough for You!” I am indebted to Rabbi Maurice D. Harris for pointing out these words, spoken by God to Moses in the Book of Deuteronomy (Deut. 3:26)  (see Harris’ excellent book, Moses, a Stranger Among Us). The words (a translation of the Hebrew words  rav lach) are spoken in the context of Moses’ grief because of his not being allowed to cross over into...

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  • Even the Hard Stuff

    Even the Hard Stuff   By Pat Schwiebert, R.N.pat@tearsoup.com     Last night at our support group one of the parents spoke of Father’s Day and how their family decided they wanted to do something special, but something that didn’t include being around people.  After a bit of research, a hike in a very remote site was decided upon, a place where it was highly unlikely that they would bump into other hikers.  So off they went.  It was hard. ...

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