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Father's Day 2015
by Kelly Farley
Well, as much as I don’t like to think about Father’s Day, it’s kind of hard to ignore it. All of the advertisements are in full swing on social media, websites, tv, radio and everywhere else I look. It’s not that I am afraid of this day, I just don’t really know how to handle it. I don’t have any living children to spend time with so I generally just spend quiet time with my wife. Most of the time we just stay around the house or go out for lunch. Maybe go for a run or a bike ride.
I don’t know what it feels like to spend Father’s Day with my children because they died before I got to experience this and other things a parent are supposed to experience with a child. Very rarely do I hear from anyone of Father’s Day. Most people probably don’t know what to say or do, I get it.
I do want people to acknowledge that I am a dad and that this day is difficult, but I don’t like to hear “Happy” Father’s Day, because it’s not. There is nothing anyone can do or say to make it “happy.” That’s just the reality of it.
Instead of wishing all of you a “Happy” Father’s Day, I am going to say, “I am thinking about you on this difficult day and wish you a “Peaceful Father’s Day.” Because one of the most important things to me is the feeling of peace. That is not an easy thing to come by after the loss of a child, but once you find it, it’s invaluable.
Well, as much as I don’t like to think about Father’s Day, it’s kind of hard to ignore it. All of the advertisements are in full swing on social media, websites, tv, radio and everywhere else I look. It’s not that I am afraid of this day, I just don’t really know how to handle it. I don’t have any living children to spend time with so I generally just spend quiet time with my wife. Most of the time we just stay around the house or go out for lunch. Maybe go for a run or a bike ride.
I don’t know what it feels like to spend Father’s Day with my children because they died before I got to experience this and other things a parent are supposed to experience with a child. Very rarely do I hear from anyone of Father’s Day. Most people probably don’t know what to say or do, I get it.
I do want people to acknowledge that I am a dad and that this day is difficult, but I don’t like to hear “Happy” Father’s Day, because it’s not. There is nothing anyone can do or say to make it “happy.” That’s just the reality of it.
Instead of wishing all of you a “Happy” Father’s Day, I am going to say, “I am thinking about you on this difficult day and wish you a “Peaceful Father’s Day.” Because one of the most important things to me is the feeling of peace. That is not an easy thing to come by after the loss of a child, but once you find it, it’s invaluable.