What Not to Say to a Grieving Person

What Not to Say to a Grieving Person

 

Pat Schwiebert, RN
Grief Watch

 

 

What not to say to a grieving person

 

  • Snap out of it
  • It wasn’t meant to be
  • You must be strong
  • She lived a good life
  • You must move on
  • God will never give you more than you can handle
  • I understand
  • Be thankful you have other children
  • It’s over with. Let’s not deal with it
  • Get a hold of yourself
  • Keep a stiff upper lip
  • Pull yourself together
  • Be strong for the children
  • Get back on the horse again
  • It was God’s will
  • You can always have other children
  • You’re young
  • Maybe God is trying to teach you a lesson
  • Others have it worse than you
  • What did you do wrong?
  • He wouldn’t have been healthy
  • It is just nature’s way of dealing with a problem

 

Helpful things to say to a grieving person

 

  • I’m so sorry to hear about your loss
  • I can’t imagine what you are going through, it must be unbearable
  • Sit down and tell me all about it
  • I don’t know what to say, but I’ll be glad to listen
  • How are you really feeling?
  • What can I do to help?

 

(if you are caring for someone from a different culture ask “what would be happening if this happened…”)