The Tear Soup Recipe

Taken directly from the back of the book, Tear Soup, these tips can be used to help those grieving any type of loss. Print a copy to read during quiet times, pass them on to a grieving friend, or print a bunch of copies to share in a support or with a grief class.

Helpful Infredients to Consider

Soup Pot

  • a pot full of tears
  • one heart willing to be broken open
  • a dash of bitters
  • a bunch of good friends
  • many handfuls of comfort food
  • a lot of patience
  • buckets of water to replace the tears
  • plenty of exercise
  • a variety of helpful reading material
  • enough self care
  • season with memories
  • optional; one good therapist and/or support group


Choose the size pot that fits your loss. It’s ok to increase the pot size if you miscalculated. Combine ingredients. Set temperature for a moderate heat. Cooking times will vary depending on the ingredients needed. Strong flavors mellow over time. Stir often. Cook no longer than you need to.


  • be creative
  • trust your instincts
  • cry when you want to, laugh when you can
  • freeze some to use as a starter for next time
  • write your own soup making in a journal so you won’t forget 

Download a copy of the Tear Soup Recipe Here

Exerpt From: Tear Soup, a recipe for healing after loss By Pat Schwiebert & Chuck DeKlyen
Illustrated by Taylor Bills
© Grief Watch 1999