If your friend is the
one making Tear Soup
Be there for your friend, even when you don't understand.
Be a source of comfort by listening, laughing, and crying.
Stick close to your friend and defend their right to grieve.
Allow your friend to make mistakes... or at least to grieve differently
from
the way you would grieve.
Send flowers. Send money if you know this would help.
Send cards. The message doesn't need to be long. Just let them know you
haven't forgotten them. Send one every few weeks for a while.
Call your friend. Don't worry about being a bother. Let your friend tell
you if they
don't want to talk about their loss right now.
Answering machines and e-mail are great ways to keep in touch, allowing
the
bereaved person to respond only when they feel up to it.
Try to anticipate what your friend may need. Bereaved persons sometimes
don't
know what to ask for.
Avoid offering easy answers and platitudes. This only invalidates the
grief. Be
patient. Don't try to rush your friend through their grief.
Give your friend permission to grieve in front of you. Don't change the
subject or
tell them not to cry or act uncomfortable when they do cry.
Ask them questions. But don't tell them how they should feel.
Invite your friend to attend events together, as you normally would. Let
them
decide if they don't want to attend.
Don't assume because your friend is having a good day that it means they
are
over their loss.
Be mindful of holidays, birthdays and anniversaries.
A copy of the Tear Soup
Tips can be downloaded from the link provided below.
This download file was prepared for you to print and share with with
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